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Volume 12 AUgust 2008
Recently a friend signed up for a local tennis tournament. He likes competing but hadn’t done something like this in a year or so. Spurred on by his tennis coach, he bypassed some limiting beliefs about where his game was at and registered for the one day event. His match was scheduled for 8:00am on a Saturday morning. When he arrived at the courts, they were soaked from rain the night before, so he chipped in to lend a hand in getting the courts dry so play could begin. After an hour or so, his competitor arrived and they began their match. Unfortunately he lost the match, reporting back to me, “I really didn’t play my game. I played his game.”
This is a powerful metaphor that can teach a lot about living life successfully. What does that mean – to play your game? For me if means staying connected to who you are and not allowing others to have a negative effect on you. It means that you stay aware of your thoughts in order to not be swayed by the crowd, the cultural masses, friends, your parents, your spouse – whoever might have a different belief system about who you are or how you should act.
How does this show up in your life? Who can say something to you, and then, where a moment ago you were so sure of yourself, suddenly you shift to their way… their idea of who you should be. What do you feel when this happens? For me, when this happens (and because I’m human, it happens!), I feel stripped… deprived of myself, like something has been stolen. It’s not a feeling I let happen much but I can definitely recall when it has that my first reaction was an inner resentment towards whoever triggered this change in my state. I notice a hardening or tightening of my spirit. And yet, after a few breaths, I also notice: they didn’t ‘make me’ change. There was no gun to my head. So really the responsibility for creating that outcome lies with me. And that’s not an outcome I want to create!!
So let’s back up earlier before I changed my behavior to what actually had me even consider changing. For this we need to check out the beliefs that got engaged by this situation. On some level, I was not following a belief that states, “I know what’s best for me. I know and can trust my own distinct way/style/ideas/values.” I wasn’t in touch with this and therefore it took very little for someone else’s view to pull me whichever way they wanted. I was probably living a belief more like, “If I want to be liked/loved, I need to adapt to what others want from me.” I became the flying leaf, scattered here or there, without any stability. If that sounds dizzying, believe me, it is. And living a dizzy life is not what I’m about. :)
If I had been connected to myself, with clarity about who I am, it probably would’ve turned out differently. I could have been curious about why that person wants me to shift or not. I could’ve acknowledged them for their suggestion but graciously declined and followed my own path. I also know that when I follow my truth and stay connected to what really matters to me, I feel powerful. Not powerful as in ‘power over someone’ but an inner swelling of my own true direction for my life’s path. I know who’s captaining my ship! I may not always know where I’ll end up but I do trust myself to lead the way.
Whether the saboteurs are external, or internal voices that usually just are interested in me staying safe and living on the sidelines of life, the more aware I am of my True Self, the better. I like to spend time connecting with just me – this is not a selfish act but more of a statement of value towards my self. The Law of Attraction tells us that ‘like attracts like’. When I give myself time and attention, I am confirming the belief that ‘I am an interesting person to know.’ If my focus is on others 100% of the time, then when those situations arise that could deter me off course, I won’t have developed my own connection to who I am and what I stand for. Then I will end up being the fluttering leaf again.
Perused the bookstore lately? There are 100’s of books on finding your direction or connecting with your Spirit and more. And as an avid reader, I’m sure that each of them has value to offer. But what I’ve found is that a very direct conversation with my coach about what is keeping me disconnected, can create a shift almost instantly. The synergy of she and I, both tuning in and paying attention, looking at what I want and the beliefs that support that, go a long way towards the freedom of living life from my essence. We are specifically looking at my life and my issues in service of creating powerful changes that bring me more into harmony and alignment with myself. The process of coaching – having a support system in place, having a champion who sees me as my highest self, who see the potential of who I’m becoming – is, like Mastercard says, invaluable. Together we can uncover and change any old limiting beliefs into ones that move me closer to the person I was meant to be.
This month I am offering you six months of coaching at a reduced rate. In a blink of an eye, 2008 is going to be gone – that’s how fast six months goes by. What could happen if you hired me as your coach? If you like group settings in nature, the Being in the Flow Sept 4-8 rafting retreat will examine beliefs of scarcity and how to upgrade them into abundance. If either of these opportunities is calling to you, please contact me and let’s talk about what changes you’re looking for in your life – because more than anything I am committed to you unveiling and living your True Life!
Coach Victoria
(970)259-9040
Victoria@truelifecoach.net
Contact me for a complimentary session to see if True Life Coaching is the call you’re hearing.
www.truelifecoach.net victoria@truelifecoach.net (970)259-9040
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