I just spent the most delicious weekend at the Lotus Lounge in Salt Lake City. The whole weekend was focused on honoring the sacred feminine and the gifts we have to give. As someone who spends a lot of time supporting others to pay attention to this, this weekend was my Valentine gift to myself to ‘tend the seeds of my beauty’. (Some of you will recognize that as the title of my upcoming retreat!) How grateful I am to Diane and Sophia for creating the environment for me to do this!
My intention for the weekend had to do with choosing to allow whatever I was feeling to be fully felt. That’s a Big One, don’t you think?! So often in the busy, hamster wheel of life, we just go on to the next thing – negating, ignoring or denying our feelings. ‘I don’t have time to feel this now’ is one version of what the inner manager will say to me. Often it’s difficult to make the time later. Kind of like all those teleclass calls I could listen to but then there’s dinner to make, or laundry to do or other people’s needs to attend to. In the field of true aliveness though, there’s always a price for pushing away what you feel. We both know it, right?
When we allow ourselves to fully feel what’s going on inside, we honor our inner voice, our True Self. This voice speaks our truth. There’s a ka-chunk or deep settling inside when you land on it. You know there’s no a debate about it. Only now there are feelings to go with the insight. And here’s the rub – some of those feelings can take us into discomfort: sensations… emotions… that we are very uncomfortable with. The perfect reason to be too busy to feel - I am outta here!
What if we chose to surrender? To let ourselves feel the pain, feel the tightening in our chests, the closing of the throat, or the clenching in our stomachs? To lean into it, trusting…breathing… each moment creating a bit more space to hold the discomfort? What then?
What I’ve experienced when I do this is the stretch. When I surrender my need to control everything, I find I actually have a lot more space than I realized. I am bigger than my small self would like to let me believe I am How’s that for a great discovery?! And within this discovery comes a greater capacity for everything, including more joy, more ability to love, more range to live a richer life.
Check it out for yourself. Where are you ignoring or denying what you feel? Where are you popping the pill of ignorance? Ignorance will not lead to bliss. But allowing the divinity of your feelings to be felt will stretch you beyond the ‘you’ you’ve been inhabiting and give you access to a wider, more expansive and fully alive life.
Can I support you on this journey to a more evolved you? If you’re interested in how coaching with me could bring more fulfillment and aliveness, call me (970) 259-9040 or email Victoria@truelifecoach.net . Contrary to what your small self might be saying, hiring a coach to help you see your blind spots, that each and every human has, is being fully responsible for creating your most authentic life.
